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What’s Wrong With Being a 33-Year-Old Virgin?

Yvonne Orji

Actress Yvonne Orji (Photo by Randy Shropshire/Getty Images for HBO)

Last week on Twitter, a heated debate got started over actress Yvonne Orji’s decision to remain celibate until she is married. I had some thoughts on that debate, and I wrote about them in a commentary for The Root.

When we say we want women to be free to make their own sexual choices, do we only mean that when the choice is one that we would make for ourselves? When we say that women should have agency over their own bodies, do we mean only if that agency is not influenced by other personal convictions or beliefs? Do we only want women to be free to make their own choices with their bodies when that choice involves sharing it with someone else?

Read “Mind Your Own Vagina: On Yvonne Orji, Adult Virgins and Personal Sexual Choices

Consensual Non-Monogamy: It’s Not Just For White People

Lawrence from Insecure

HBO

On last night’s episode of Insecure, Molly quipped that she thought open relationships were some white people shit. OK, she didn’t say it exactly like that, but that was indeed her point.

Consensual non-monogamous relationships are are not just for white people. I wrote a piece on The Root discussion my own experience with it.

Many of us were raised on the idea that we would grow up and find one person that we would marry and be with forever until death do us part. We would have children with this person, buy a home with this person, and build a life with this person that would look like some combination of all the ‘perfect’ families we watched on television and live happily ever after in monogamy.

Read “No, Open and Non-Monogamous Relationships Are Not Just For White People

How Mike Brown’s Shooting and the Ferguson Protests Made Journalism Even More Important to Me

Ferguson, Missouri

Photo by Michael B. Thomas/Getty Images

When Mike Brown was killed in Ferguson, Mo., on Aug. 9, 2014, I was still in journalism school at Arizona State University, learning more about the effective use of social media and blogs and the impact they can have on social movements. I was not aware of how important that information was going to become for me until months later, when the movement to save black lives came to the forefront of our collective social conscience.

Read “Mike Brown, Ferguson, Mo., and How the Movement to Save Black Lives Changed the Way I Do Journalism

On Fat Shaming, Sex, and the Fat, Black Woman

Lil Duval Tweet

Lil Duval’s tweet fat shaming one of Usher’s accusers

When news of Usher’s latest accuser broke, and her picture was circulated across social media, it didn’t take long for people to start criticizing her appearance and expressing disbelief that Usher would ever have sex with her.

I am always baffled by people who believe fat women are incapable of finding willing sex partners. It is the weirdest thing. I wrote about my feelings on the issue for The Root.

Every day, no matter what topic I am writing about or discussing, it is inevitable that detractors will come along and try to fight me. They realize very quickly that they are not going to be able to successfully argue with me on the merits of my points, so when all else fails, they fall into fat insults. It happens every time.

 Never mind that in my profile on every social network and here on Kinja, I am wearing a shirt that proclaims my chubby physique proudly. Never mind that I’m actually mostly just top heavy with a pudgy belly. Never mind that they know nothing about my personal physical health; they want to attack it every time. I am used to it by now; it’s par for the course.

Commentary: I Have Been Issa. I Have Been Tasha. I Have Fucked My Share of Lawrences

Insecure

Insecure (HBO)

Sunday’s episode of the HBO show Insecure led to a lot of discussion across social media.

I originally spoke about it in my own thread on Twitter.

That Twitter thread led to me writing a piece on The Root sharing my own experiences.

Insecure regularly reminds me of the lessons I am thankful to have learned in my late 20s and early 30s about relationships, sexuality and owning my womanhood. As the second season gets off to a hard and fast start, I am reminded that I have been Issa, I have been Tasha and I have fucked my fair share of Lawrences over the years.

Read “I Have Been Issa. I Have Been Tasha. I Have Had My Fair Share of Lawrences

Are We Returning to Jim Crow?

A photograph of an African American child using a water fountain, the tree next to the fountain has a sign attached that reads ‘Colored’ in order to enforce Jim Crow laws, the water fountain is part of the county courthouse property, Halifax, North Carolina, 1938. From the New York Public Library. (Photo by Smith Collection/Gado/Getty Images).

I wrote a commentary on The Root about the Justice Department’s decision to go after affirmative action admissions at colleges and universities, and how this is the long-con that will lead us to a return of Jim Crow.

Since his inauguration, Trump, and those in his administration, have shown that they mean to make good on their promise to bring white supremacy back to the forefront. Every policy decision is cloaked—and coded—in the dismantling of everything that has helped give marginalized people even the smallest leg up in a society that is stacked against them in the first place.

Read ” Are We Returning to Jim Crow?

Who Will Be the Next Contestant Fired on ‘White House Apprentice’?

White House Chief of Staff John Kelly

White House Chief of Staff John Kelly (Photo SAUL LOEB/AFP/Getty Images)

My money is on new White House Chief of Staff John Kelly. From my latest commentary on The Root:

Although Jeff Sessions has done everything in his power to prove he is still loyal to the head diva in charge, Trump still did talking heads and Twitter threads hinting that he wants him gone. Your president does not appreciate backstabbing and wavering fealty, which is why I am worried that the next person to be kicked out of the house, if not Sessions, will be new Chief of Staff John Kelly.

Read “Will New Chief Of Staff John Kelly Be the Next Contestant Fired on White House Apprentice? 

Aramis Ayala and Racism in Florida Politics

Aramis Ayala

Aramis Ayala (YouTube screenshot)

I had a Twitter thread the other night about Aramis Ayala, the Florida state’s attorney who was stopped by two Orlando police officers who didn’t recognize her.

I took the thoughts from that thread and added context via this article on The Root:

The viral video of a black female state attorney in Florida getting pulled over by police officers who don’t recognize her and say they couldn’t get any information off of her plates has been making headlines and sparking discussion for days, but is it possible that there is more to the story than meets the eye?

Read “Fla. State Attorney Aramis Ayala: Is Viral Video Latest Evidence of Targeted Harassment Against Her? 

#EbonyOwes – NABJ Calls Out Ebony Magazine

Ebony Magazine

Ebony Magazine

Shots fired! The National Association of Black Journalists on Thursday named Ebony magazine (along with Fox News) as its choice for its annual “Thumbs Down Award,” which puts on blast anyone that does something especially to black people or black journalists.

Read “#EbonyOwes: Ebony Magazine Gets the Thumbs Down From the National Association of Black Journalists

Doc Rivers and the Clippers Dynasty

Doc Rivers, Austin Rivers

Los Angeles Clippers head coach Doc Rivers, left, listens to Austin Rivers, right, in the second half of an NBA basketball game against the Charlotte Hornets in Charlotte, N.C., Saturday, Feb. 11, 2017. The Clippers won 107-102. (AP Photo/Chuck Burton)

I wrote a commentary about Doc Rivers and his failing legacy with the Clippers.

He has not been able to elevate this team above their junior varsity status the way everyone thought he would, and with each successive loss — be it a game or a player — it becomes clear that it’s time for Doc Rivers to go as both a president and a coach. His decisions in both capacities have been questionable at best, and destructive at worst.

Read “Doc Rivers and the Los Angeles Clippers: Is a Man’s Pride and a Father’s Love Ruining a Basketball Franchise?

Congressional Black Caucus: Donald Trump Doesn’t Care About Black People

Cedric Richmond

US Representative Cedric Richmond of Louisiana (Photo credit should read Saul Loeb/AFP/Getty Images)

Cedric L. Richmond, Democratic Representative from New Orleans and chair of the Congressional Black Caucus, wrote a three-page letter Wednesday to Donald Trump declining his invitation to meet with the CBC and outlining the many reasons why the group as a whole is saying no.

That Time Bill Maher Questioned Anne-Marie Johnson’s Blackness While Defending His Use of the Word ‘Nigga’

Bill Maher

“Real Time With Bill Maher”‘ Screenshot

Friday’s moment when TV host Bill Maher uttered the n-word was not the first time he crossed the line where race is concerned. Long before Real Time With Bill Maher was a thing, Maher once talked over, insulted and questioned the blackness of veteran black actress Anne-Marie Johnson, all while arguing that white people should be able to say “nigga.”

Read my commentary, “#NeverForget: Bill Maher Once Questioned a Black Woman’s Blackness Over the N-Word

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