Actress Yvonne Orji (Photo by Randy Shropshire/Getty Images for HBO)
Last week on Twitter, a heated debate got started over actress Yvonne Orji’s decision to remain celibate until she is married. I had some thoughts on that debate, and I wrote about them in a commentary for The Root.
When we say we want women to be free to make their own sexual choices, do we only mean that when the choice is one that we would make for ourselves? When we say that women should have agency over their own bodies, do we mean only if that agency is not influenced by other personal convictions or beliefs? Do we only want women to be free to make their own choices with their bodies when that choice involves sharing it with someone else?
NEW YORK, NY – OCTOBER 10, 2016: People participate in the annual Columbus Day Parade on October 10, 2016 in New York City. This is the 72nd Columbus Day Parade held in New York City. (Photo by Stephanie Keith/Getty Images)
On Wednesday, the Los Angeles City Council voted to eliminate the Columbus Day holiday from the city calendar in a move that sides with activists who believe the Italian pirate explorer is a symbol of genocide for native indigenous people.
HOUSTON, TX – AUGUST 30: People line up to buy groceries in the Chanelview section of Houston as flood waters began to recede following Hurricane Harvey August 29, 2017 in Houston, Texas. The city of Houston is still experiencing severe flooding in some areas due to the accumulation of historic levels of rainfall, though the storm has moved to the north and east. (Photo by Win McNamee/Getty Images)
When Congress resumes after its August recess next week, the House will consider a spending bill that includes the $876 million cut to the Federal Emergency Management Agency’s disaster relief account, which would pay for roughly half the cost of the down payment on Trump’s ridiculous wall of doom at the U.S.-Mexico border.
HOUSTON, TX – AUGUST 30: The Walker and Brown families walk out of the water at Memorial Drive and North Eldridge Parkway in the Energy Corridor of west Houston where residents rescued from their flooded homes and apartments due to high water coming from the Addicks Reservoir after Hurricane Harvey on August 30, 2017 in Houston, Texas. Harvey, which made landfall north of Corpus Christi August 25, has dumped more than 50 inches of rain in some areas in and around Houston. (Photo by Erich Schlegel/Getty Images)
The Houston Independent School District has found a way to help all the families it serves in the wake of the devastation caused by Hurricane Harvey. On Wednesday, the district announced that it will waive the required application process for the National School Lunch/Breakfast program and provide free meals to all students in this school year.
As rumors circulated Friday morning that the Ku Klux Klan and other white supremacists planned to rally in downtown Durham, N.C., in response to the toppling of a Confederate statue on Monday by racial justice advocates, counter-protesters showed up in number, crowding the streets and forcing local and government businesses and buildings to shut down for the day.
In which Josie Duffy-Rice gives us the human side of supposed “violent offenders” and how that label impacts who benefits from criminal justice reform and who doesn’t.
Reform advocates have spent years trying to get the public to pay attention to the injustices of America’s merciless criminal justice system. The good news is it seems to be working, albeit slowly and fitfully, with public perception shifting across the political spectrum. There’s a long way to go—we still imprison more people than any other country in the world and the system is full of inhumanities—but there have been some important, if tiny, triumphs.
But even these minor victories have costs. To make justice reform digestible, we’ve had to draw black-and-white lines that obscure the shades of gray. Take, for example, the binary split between nonviolent and violent offenders. Because nonviolent offenders are much more sympathetic, they’ve received almost all the reform attention. Any mercy the system has demonstrated has gone almost exclusively to those we can safely lump into this nonthreatening category, a group we’ve separated rhetorically from the “violent” types who are generally considered beyond redemption or mercy.
On Monday evening during an anti-white supremacy rally, demonstrators in Durham, N.C., toppled a Confederate statue that had been standing in front of the old courthouse in the city’s downtown area. On Tuesday morning, Takiyah Thompson, the black woman who tied the noose around the statue’s neck so it could be pulled down was one of the first to be arrested for her part in the demonstration.
Three more demonstrators were arrested on Wednesday morning, and on Thursday morning, activists who believe law enforcement officials are targeting racial justice organizers gathered en masse to turn themselves in as well.
A recent analysis conducted by The Marshall Project confirms what most of us have known, or at least suspected, all along: when a black man is killed by a white person in America, their killer is less likely to face legal consequences, and the killing is more likely to be deemed justifiable.
On last night’s episode of Insecure, Molly quipped that she thought open relationships were some white people shit. OK, she didn’t say it exactly like that, but that was indeed her point.
Consensual non-monogamous relationships are are not just for white people. I wrote a piece on The Rootdiscussion my own experience with it.
Many of us were raised on the idea that we would grow up and find one person that we would marry and be with forever until death do us part. We would have children with this person, buy a home with this person, and build a life with this person that would look like some combination of all the ‘perfect’ families we watched on television and live happily ever after in monogamy.
If there’s a cure for this, I don’t want it. If there’s a remedy, I’ll run from it.
With so much craziness happening in this country this weekend, I took long breaks from social media over the weekend and indulged in self-care in the form of multiple orgasms. It was glorious.
I’m usually plugged in and connected all the time, but I found myself disconnecting a lot this weekend, locked in my apartment with a lover who was working here for the weekend and therefore got to bypass my usual ‘no overnights’ rule because when I see him, it’s always special, and we like to make it last.
And then, the morning after he leaves, I wake up feeling like this — blissful and ready to tackle whatever the day throws at me.
And even though I think I’m full and I’ve gotten all I can take, love in the form of an almost 3-hour phone call from someone else shows up, and pushes me further into the “Bitch, you on now!” mood.
Cause I am on. I looked at myself in the mirror this morning and said, “Fuck that; I’m on.”