There is no question white gays have intrinsic advantages over black women in American society. Sure, we’ve taken our lumps, but black women certainly win the sweepstakes of oppression by a landslide. It is, in fact, this basic difference — race — that has enabled us to blitz through our civil rights movement in head-spinning fashion, while black women continue to face painful economic and political hurdles. Why did gay rights go from fantasy to entitlement in a blink of the historical eye, even as other oppressed minorities fend off efforts to deny them the ability to vote or obtain a decent education? Because so many of the gay men and women who came out were white and, thus, already embedded in the nation’s most powerful institutions.
I’m not sure in what universe white gay men and black women supposedly have a shared or similar experience, but this article is still worth a read. It exemplifies everything that is wrong culturally with this need for inclusion on the part of white Americans. It’s OK; you don’t have to be a part of everything.
I have a lot of gay, white male friends, and not one of them has ever told me they shared my experience, because I think they understand that as a black woman in America, my experience is almost always going to be harder. It is easier for a white male to pass in this society than it is for me to. White gay men have more advantages even in as much as their gayness sets them apart from their own counterparts in society, but that setting apart will never equal blackness. Ever.